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In my case (and perhaps for many trans folks), going online for potential romance felt like a safe first step in cultivating my new, authentic self—in being able to reach out to others as the man that I was and am.
Plus, since I live in a small community, there aren’t many opportunities to date and less of a selection of potential partners.
But my attitude about dating has become more hopeful, as I’ve gotten more comfortable in my body, and used to making decisions that feel supportive to myself.
We had been flirting on Facebook for about a year and agreed that if either of us was ever traveling close enough to the other, we would meet.Some people I have spoken with say they think it’s important to disclose that you’re trans right away, while about an equal number of others say it’s better to wait to see if there is any chemistry before sharing such personal information. I made a plan to meet the woman I’d been messaging with for a coffee date.Truth be told, there were no immediate sparks when we met up at our local coffee shop.After this notable dating disaster, I went on other dates that didn’t go as badly; but quite honestly, many people are not as open-minded as they’d like to believe.I recall planning a couple of potential dates in which the person explicitly acknowledged being comfortable about meeting a trans person, and then would politely back out before the date even happened.
She drove down from New York and we had an enjoyable dinner in Philadelphia.